Two Big Fat Lies We Tell Ourselves

October 7, 2020 –

No matter the size of a lie, it’s a lie.

While there is only one stage of truth, there are three degrees of lying: white lies, fibs, and blatant untruths. The difference between a white lie and a fib is shades of grey People often cross their fingers as they stretch the truth in the form of a fib. The difference between a fib and a blatant lie is a lie deliberately communicates false information.

Faced with a business or career opportunity, people often opt to buy into one of the two biggest self-defeating lies. They convince themselves they are too young to step out or they are too old to change. As experience proves, either excuse is a big fat lie. The source for both of these lies is fear. When a person says, “I’m afraid to make a decision; you’re listening to a risk-avoider and a person afraid of success. It’s unfortunate, but they will achieve their goal.

The problem with self-lying is it is easier to lie to ourselves than it is to others. It is amazing how complete the delusion is that one is too young or too old to achieve success. By not venturing, people have an alibi: I am too young, or I am too old. The purpose of life is to live your dream and help others live their dream.

Time is wasted by avoiding the opportunity when the need for a decision is obvious. Malcolm Gladwell, in his book, “Blink”, writes, “Decisions made very quickly can be every bit as good as decisions made cautiously and deliberately.”  Sometimes, people must accept the challenge and act on the advice of Robin Williams in the movie, “Dead Poets Society,” “Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.” It’s hard to understand why more people don’t put the “extra” in extraordinary.

I’m not young and don’t consider myself too old so, this morning, I made a decision and ate an extra biscuit at breakfast. Eating the additional biscuit isn’t a part of my dieting program. But it was good. So rather than lie to me, I fibbed.